First things first: Hi! How are you?! Welcome back to ADOD. Gosh, I have missed this space so much and after almost of year of some much needed time off, I am back with new perspective and energy. So much has changed since the last time I sat down and wrote a blog post. I promise to update you on all of the details, but last year was the beginning of lots of changes, understanding, and personal growth. Back in April, I started to feel like posting about clothes and my daily life felt frivolous with everything going on in the world. There was so much unknown, so I decided to take a step back and focus on my family who needed me the most. I chose to learn, discuss and grow offline because that is where I felt grounded and safe. To be completely honest, it was the right decision at the time. The best takeaway from my time off was spending our sons first year completely unplugged. It was the first time I didn’t feel the urge to be creating content every moment of everyday, but instead just embracing the quiet in between moments.
I spent most of my days in activewear on the floor of our playroom enjoying all of his firsts without any distractions. The first year of motherhood was anything short of what I expected. We had so much quality time as our little family of three, but I would be remiss to say I was a little sad to miss mom groups, swim lessons, and all the other things I longed for as a first time mom. Now that I have two and a little more perspective, I am realizing it really wasn’t a huge deal and now I get to do all these things with two cute boys! We started doing music in the park once a week and it is honestly a highlight of our week. Oh and since I have been gone for so long, I found out I was pregnant with our second perfect baby boy last April and he made a beautiful entrance this January.
We are slowly finding our groove as a family of four. The saying is really true, your heart doubles in size when your second is born. Two under two is a total game changer, but we are having so much fun and I wouldn’t have it any other way! We have always dreamt about having two boys close in age (yes, they are 13 months apart- a question I get on the daily) and I feel so lucky to be their mama. Motherhood the second time around has been different in so many ways. I am more confident and so happy. I really took time to appreciate the little moments in those early days (and even the quiet days at the hospital with just the three of us due to no visitors at the hospital). Maybe my favorite moment as a mom was bringing home baby brother to meet his big brother. I could cry just thinking about it. The newborn stage is so fleeting and I really unplugged and enjoyed it because I knew this was going to be our last. Healing was also a top priority this time around because I knew I only had one chance to recover before I started chasing around a very busy toddler. I am still getting my footing on how to juggle both boys. My love language is quality time and I find myself wishing I had two more hands. I want to give each of them my full, undivided attention all the time but it is something I am learning to let go of slowly. In my heart, I know they will both be happy, loved little boys who will eventually be the best of friends.
Here are a few other little life updates and random tidbits to fill you in on:
To add some extra craziness to what already felt like an unprecedented year, we decided in October to sell our house. We really wanted four bedrooms with the new baby and wanted to have time for renovations before he was born. After looking at what felt like every single house on Zillow and with our realtor, we found a fixer upper that would have to get gutted and finished in less than 100 days! Well, we did it (with a few exceptions, like backordered windows) but this new house is already starting to feel like home. I will be sure to share more on this front since I know how much all of you love home content.
It has been a minute since I went shopping and I cannot wait to clean out my closet and start fresh this spring. I have been living in leggings and all of my favorite HATCH pieces for the past 11 months. Any of my pregnant gals, this dress is perfect for before, during and after pregnancy, but after being pregnant for almost three years straight, I am so excited to shop! First up, a few new pairs of denim (apparently skinny jeans are out? I guess I am old) and also work on perfecting my “mom” uniform…aka a tee, jeans, and ballet flats or sneakers. I noticed how much better I feel when I get ready for the day even if it means being covered in drool and milk. These ballet flats have been on serious repeat since last spring. I found these baby blue and green ones that are a perfect addition to my tan pair. I found these tees last spring and have just picked up another white and black one this week (I also wore them all the way through my pregnancy). We have a couple trips planned for this summer and I am looking forward to have something to shop for again!
MORE ON TWO UNDER TWO
I am not sure I mentioned this earlier, but our boys are thirteen months apart (almost Irish twins). We always talked about our dream scenario when it came to having kids but we are pretty realistic people and didn’t put too much pressure on ourselves when TTC. Well our little dream came true, two little boys! I have always wanted to be a boy mom for as long as I can remember. I am pretty private about this part of my life…most of you come here for the pretty pictures and cute clothes and I am here for it! But just know that if you are longing to be a mom, feel isolated in that first trimester, or didn’t have things go exactly as planned, you are not alone. If you didn’t do the math by now, you would know that we found out we were pregnant just five months into our first son’s life. So those sleepless nights just continued on for…well, they are still happening with our two month old. I told my mom the other day that everyday I wake up and feel like I am on a treadmill running full speed and can’t hop off until about 7pm every night. As the weeks pass, we are slowing finding our groove with the boys. It’s all hands on deck all the time but I have to say the jump from one to two was an easier adjustment than zero to one. This all being said, I would love any tips from y’all on how to navigate multiples! Efficiency and defense have seemed to be the name of the game these days!
Well, I am out of time today, but promise I will be back for more updates on the last year, motherhood and life in general soon.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sticking around, chatting about motherhood late night on Instagram, and the sweet messages and congratulations about our growing family. I’m back, so hold on tight, we are in for a wild ride and endless funny stories. I am forever grateful for all of you and this little space on the Internet. Gosh, I’ve missed this.
xx-A Dash of Details